Welcome to your talk show Impact Formula
Segment – Analysis of our Society’s Diaries (ASD)-(ANALYST’s OPINION)
Topic – Can a woman from a divorced home make a good wife?
KEY NOTES: (Someone sent me this as a True Story for my blog).It goes thus; “I heard this somewhere and i wondered how correct it is. The speaker was saying that before you seek for a girls hand in marriage, you should first confirm if she is from a broken home. You should find out if her parents are together and that if her parents are divorced, it is a bad sign. The speaker however did not talk about if male children from broken homes can make good husbands. His emphasis was on the women.”
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I shall start by answering the second question first. Yes, I got married to a lady whose parents are separated.
To the first question, my answer is another question: why not? So who would marry them if everyone avoids them? Just like you said, what about the male children who come from broken homes? So what does he say about people who came from unbroken homes but have become divorced? I would rather question the maturity of the man in question who opined that it’s a bad sign to discover that a lady came from a broken marriage.
To the issue at hand. A woman is different from a wife. A woman is an identity, a wife is simply a role a woman plays. So you have a woman playing the role of a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, worker, CEO all at the same time. Once a girl grows into a balanced woman, she excels at her various roles in life.
Even for folks who grew up in unbroken homes, we all come into marriage with our baggage, unrealistic expectations and cultural mindset. Each spouse is to embark on a journey of growth to ensure they are the change they want to see. Each spouse is to seek to communicate effectively their own idea of marital happiness, and synchronize their definitions. There is no marital problem, only marital ignorance.
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Thank you Chams, J, Wells and Zee. I will always appreciate you guys…ALWAYS…There will be no ASD without you peeps. Gracias.
Can a woman from a divorced home make a good wife?
My answer is yes she can. In the first instance, anyone can divorce his/her partner. A person does not have to have a “divorce family history” before one can want to divorce his/her partner. Yes; in as much as family history/parental background can be a huge influence, i still strongly believe that people can grow and embrace their own values regardless of their family history so YES! A woman from a divorced home make a good wife.
Secondly, if you want to marry a girl and you discover that her parents failed in marriage, will you marry the girl?
I think part of my response to the first question also answers this so for me it’s a Yes; however i will have discussed the subject(divorce) with her thoroughly. As long as her belief aligns with mine, YES i can marry her.
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