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Segment – Analysis of our Society’s Diaries (ASD)-(ANALYST’s OPINION)
Topic – Does your partner have the right to ask you to Ditch your best friend?
Key notes: Many of us can relate with this. Is it in “marriage”, “while courting” or just “boyfriend and girlfriend” relationship. Do you think that at any stage of a relationship that one person has the right to tell the other to ditch his/her best friend? Especially the person has known this “best friendship” long before he/she got involved with his/her partner.
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Does your partner have the right to ask you to Ditch your best friend?
Well, its fair to say that there are different types of relationships and might also be fair to say that regardless of the “type of relationship”, they all have different stages.
For a relationship that is going no where, especially if it’s just a “boyfriend and girlfriend” kind of relationship, i doubt if any of the parties has the right to tell the other to “Ditch your best friend”.
However, when people are involved in a serious relationship ( note that a serious kind of relationship can be defined from the very beginning like when two people who are ready to be married are introduced to each other, they can start a serious kind of relationship from the word ‘go’. On the other hand, people can grow into a serious relationship with time ).
So, when people are involved in a serious relationship one can say that they begin to share a common goal, their vision begins to synchronize, their plans begins to fuse as they work towards “oneness”. At this point, anything that wants to mar that vision can be seen as a distraction.
On that premise one partner (who is involved in a serious relationship with another partner and of which the relationship has gotten to the stage where it’s evident that it’s ‘a serious relationship’) can say to the other ‘ditch your best friend’ for the sake of what we have and where were are going.
For example: Does one partner have a smoking habit, drinking habit, hanging with friend(s) of promiscuous character, hanging with friend(s) of questionable character. Now (1) We will all agree, that you cannot say you want to stop these things yet you keep hanging with people that are soaked in it. (2) As long as one partner sees a future in the relationship, he/she has the right to tell the other ‘ditch your best friend’ for the sake of what we have and where were are going.
I do not think it really matters if you have known your best friend for years before you met your partner. I mean: you can be in darkness for years before you find light…..Literally speaking.
So does your partner have the right to ask you to Ditch your best friend?…I’ll say yes, only if the aforementioned conditions are met.
There is a flip side to this; there are many cases where one partner has asked the other to ‘Ditch your best friend’ for his/her own selfish reasons, this bias is what can puncture my argument.
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