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Is pain an inevitable part of love?

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Welcome to your talk show Impact Formula
Segment – Analysis of our Society’s Diaries (ASD)-(ANALYST’s OPINION)
Topic – Is pain an inevitable part of love?

Key notes: I’ve heard people say severally that “love is pain”. “When It Comes To Love: Pain is Inevitable”. How true is this? Or do we just create an escape route for ourselves? Is there always pain embedded someplace where love exists?

Analyst’s opinion

Chams

chams

Chams could not join us today

Jeremiah

Jeremiah

Love reminds me of the story of the blind men who went to visit an elephant. Each felt a different side of the elephant, and kept arguing that his own opinion of the elephant is the correct one.

Generally,it is believed that love is an action as well as a feeling. However, people choose to embrace the feelings part and downplay the actions part. Likewise, it is believed that love can be selfless, brotherly and romantic/sexual which is agape, philia and eros love respectively.

Society has taught errors about love, in the manner of concepts of soulmate, love at first sight, love is blind, all is fair in love and war, and all other sorts of nonsense cliches. Humanity is generally flawed, and we seek to receive what we don’t have the capacity to give, as well as seeking to find a ‘Mr/Mrs’ Right or Perfect.

Love is never enough to sustain a relationship, there are other dynamics to creating and maintaining a wholesome relationship. Knowledge. Friendship. Self development. Friendship. Fun. Conflict resolution. Teamwork. Intimacy. Sex. Compromise. Sacrifice. The list goes on and on. Ignorance, past unresolved emotional baggage and unrealistic expectations are part of the stuff that causes pain in loving relationships.

If someone insists that love is pain, abeg check the person with a certified counselor for some past dysfunction. Thanks

Wells

wells

Is pain an inevitable part of love?

I can’t give all the answers to this and this will have numerous reactions. This topic will be well related to by people who have been in love and out of it.

Yes pain an inevitable, the severity may vary…as some are temporary, some lasting, accidental and some inevitable but pain is pain. I  can’t completely agree that love is pain. Why?, Nobody wakes up one morning to hurt their partner. Love involves two different people, who are imperfect in their own way. As sad as it is there are lots of unforeseen circumstances that make pain inevitable.

Since life is always filled with losses, and uncertainty. Pain in love might happen at some point But when it does, don’t regret one single moment. Live your Life.

Zainab

Zainab

Zee could not join us today

Guess Iyke

Guess Iyke new

Thank you Chams, J, Wells and Zee. I will always appreciate you guys…ALWAYS

Is pain an inevitable part of love?

I think its more like “pain is an inevitable part of life”. As long as we live we will experience pain; pain as a result of disappointment or betrayal, pain as a result of loss etc…as long as we live, we will experience pain at one point or the other.

Having established that, i can then say that “love is an inevitable part of life”. As long as we live, we will experience love; love for our parents, love for our partners…etc…I really doubt if there is any exception to “experiencing love”, i really doubt.

So pain and love both exist in life. It will then be fair to say that “pain is an inevitable part of love”. Not necessarily because one partner sets out to deliberately hurt or cause pain to the other; but because “pain” is like “offence” and as long as there is relationship among people, one person can “subconsciously” cause pain to another.

When people use the cliche; “love is pain” ..i think it’s in the context that “love hurts the most when it comes from the ones you love”. It takes a lot to love someone; you have trust in the one you love, you have confidence in the one you love, you expect sacrifice from the one you love. So when you have invested so much energy in a person and the person hurts you, the pain is different because of the many emotions you have invested and also because it seems as if “the person has fallen below your expectation”…So i think that is why people say…”Love is pain”.

It really takes a lot to love which is why you can hear statements like…”I don’t deserve this”, “I never expected this from you”, “I can’t believe you can do this to me, after all we have been through”. These statements could have been made out of love because the one making the statement has given so much and feels betrayed that the one he/she has given so much can cause him/her so much pain. In this context, one can arguably say that “pain an inevitable part of love”.

We really are all learners and i appreciate YOU my ANALYST’s for sharing your opinion. I look forward to more topics and your contributions. Thank you so much as we continue the conversation on this thread. Thank you for viewing Guess Iyke’s (ASD). You can join also our team of ANALYST’s.

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