“Anytime wen i come here na so, so the guy things i dey see for your room”.”Na you know, they guy just dey help me fix things for house”.I replied. “Ehnn, Mr.Fix it abi”.(that was the name my boyfriend gave him).”Make him no go fix you one day sha”.
Hello Iyke, how are you? I am 25 and i just graduated from Ogun state University and i have a boyfriend who is 32 and he works in Lagos. I actually live in Lagos. We dated for over 6 years (even before i gained admission). He is the first man i know and everyone that knows me knows me with him. We were that close Iyke. He gave me my first kiss and first everything else..lol.
My boyfriend used to come to my school every other weekend, he knew all my friends both male and female and of course they all knew him. I have this neighbor where i lived in school(we were flat mates), he was very, very friendly and he helped me a lot; a broken wardrobe, a blocked kitchen sink, a bad boiling ring, Iyke, he fixed everything for me. It’s raining and i’m not home, he helped me get in my clothes. Really nice guy. So most times when my boyfriend comes to my school to see me, my neighbor is around. One day my boyfriend asked me; “E be like say this guy dey like you o, abi na u dey like they guy”!! “Anytime wen i come here na so, so the guy things i dey see for your room”.”Na you know, they guy just dey help me fix things for house”.I replied. “Ehnn, Mr.Fix it abi”.(that was the name my boyfriend gave him).”Make him no go fix you one day sha”. And we both laughed.
HOW IT HAPPENED
In the 6th year of our relationship, One day after i came back from lecture i realized i could not find my room keys. I could not figure out where i left it and it was already 8 pm; where will i go searching for it? I called all my friends but it yielded nothing. So it was while i was making those calls that ‘Mr. Fix it’ came back from school and i told him what happened. “We have 2 options” he said, “you spend the night in my place and next day you can search better for the key or i can break the lock and you replace it tomorrow”. Hmmm! Iyke, i took the first option and that was how it happened..I will skip the details.
CAUGHT IN THE ACT
Well Iyke, from that night our relationship began. We were like two caged birds that just gained freedom. I cannot explain it but i never knew ‘Mr.Fix it’ was long in love with me. So Iyke for three months, we were in an open secrete relationship. Of course my boyfriend noticed that things had changed between us and he kept on asking and asking and asking and i kept saying that it was school pressure. Iyke it’s really a long story but i will cut it short.
One day my boyfriend came to my school unannounced and he saw ‘Mr.Fix it’ in my room, in a state that tells plenty. He asked me “what is he doing in your room naked”? “His friend came to his room with his girlfriend so he left the room for them”, i lied. It was the best i could do even though my boyfriend never believed me.
One week after my boyfriend came to my school unannounced, i went to Lagos and my boyfriend came to my house. My phone’s battery was down as we had no power supply so i used my boyfriends phone to browse. I opened my FB account on his phone and in the course of browsing his phone too went dead. Iyke when my boyfriend went home, he saw all my messages with ‘Mr.fix it’ as i didn’t sign out my FB account. Iyke, yawah come gas! At that point there really was nothing to deny. “So you have been lying to me for four months he yelled”. To say he was mad is an understatement as i have never seen him in that state before but what he did shocked me.
Iyke, we fought for two hot-days, he was fighting me and he was fighting ‘Mr.Fix it’, in fact it was so bad that they were calling each other names. Iyke the next day my boyfriend posted my naked pictures on FB. OMG, i could not believe it! How could i; a man who said he loves me, so the only way to get back at me for cheating on him was to post my naked pics on FB. Iyke i was disappointed. Of course we became enemies and for one year we weren’t talking at all. I blocked him on all my social networks, barred his number from calling me etc. Iyke, all these happened a year ago.
A lot ugly things happened Iyke but i will just end the story here. I broke up with ‘Mr.fix it’ about four months later and i really have not had any serious, serious relationship since then. Iyke guess what….My EX that posted my naked pictures on FB has come back after a year of not talking to each other and he wants to marry me (i know you asked me if he is serious, yes he is, even went to meet my mum). CAN U IMAGINE? Do you think i should really consider this guy. Can someone love you so much that he cannot forgive you and the only way he can get back at you is to hurt you because you hurt him? To hurt you he posts your naked pictures on the internet!!! What do you think i should do?
GUESS IYKE’s COMMENT
Wow! I took a deep breath after our conversation and i always begin with “i do not have all the answers”. The first thing i asked you was if the pictures have been put down and you said ‘yes’. Then i read through your mail and i didn’t see anywhere you mentioned that you were sorry for cheating on him(so i do not know if you did). Did he also say sorry for posting your nude pictures on FB? Both of you really need to begin like that.
First of all: I cannot judge you or ‘Mr.Fix it’ for what happened between both of you. Anyone can fall into temptation, anyone can make a mistake, i mean, anyone can be wrong sometime. But what happens after we have realized that we were wrong, what we do after we realize that we have made a mistake might be what makes the difference. I really don’t know how you or ‘Mr.Fix it’ handled that part.
Second of all: Our thoughts and actions as humans are usually irrational when we are hurt or angry. Your boyfriend was genuinely hurt and had every right to be angry but i don’t think his actions are justifiable (i totally condemn his reaction..totally!)…”and the only way he can get back at you is to hurt you because you hurt him”? I totally agree with you. I put up this quote in August 28, 2015
On that premise i will tell you this: It will take a lot for a man to know that his girl cheated on him with some he even knows yet the man wants his girl back this time as a wife(trust me, i know what i am saying). Yes granted the memories of what happened might still be strong for you but time heals everything. It took your boyfriend one year to realize that you are the one “FIT” for him and i honestly think you should marry him. One can argue that “who knows what else he would do if he is angry”, well i think in over 7 years of your relationship with him, you have seen it all with him. But both of you need to understand what went wrong and how it went wrong and both of you need to appologize to each other and be ready for a new start and commitment. Remember that he has a right to bear a grudge as much as you do but note this..I put up this quote in August 5, 2015
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