Welcome to your talk show Impact Formula
Segment – Analysis of our Society’s Diaries (ASD)-(ANALYST’s OPINION)
Topic – Should rape victims speak up?
Key notes: Oftentimes when girls are raped, they hide it. More of fear of how the society will see them. “Can’t you remember that girl that was raped’? It becomes an “identity”, a “label” and likely a “stigma”. In the end the guys get away with it as 80 percent of girls who are raped would rather conceal it. What is the way out for these girls. Especially when there needs to be evidence of a crime before the culprit can be prosecuted.
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Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without that person’s consent.
Rape victims are usually females, and oftentimes deeply respect the persons that rapes them. Those who perpetuate rape are familiar with the victims; they might be husbands, uncles, elder cousins, neighborhood “brothers”, co-tenants, pastors, school guardians, the list is endless.
The question is: If a ten year old girl tells her parents “uncle” Kasali is molesting her sexually, will they believe her? After-all uncle Kasali has been helping them to take care of their daughter since she was four and he is considered a trusted friend? Or if a teenage girl opened up that their undergraduate co-tenant raped her, won’t the confidant ask her “what did you go and do in their flat? Haven’t I told you not to enter people’s flats anyhow?”
It is clear that rape victims refuse to speak up because of shame. They feel it was their fault that they were raped. After-all na me go him house. Rape victims also refuse to speak up because they fear they won’t be believed, especially if the perpetrator is higher up the age/authority/influence ladder.
I think rape victims should speak up to someone confidential. Parent, friend, pastor, colleague, sibling or even the Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team in Lagos State on 08137960048. It would help relieve the anxiety and guilt, and set the person on the path to assembling their shattered self esteem. Thanks
First of all its not good thing to think of even for male victims, Yes a lot of of people don’t believe young and teenage guys could also be raped by gay guys. I’ve seen this happen. But its something that will always play in your mind through out your entire life.
Most victims will not speak up as a matter of fact Women and men often wait years to speak up about this kind of abuse.
Personally i think its because of the stigma attached to it and the society around us.
But as sad as it is. I really think its good to speak up. why?
* You will help others (Especially if you overcame the trauma attached to it). People will learn from your story.
* It will help you find other victims and you will feel less alone.
* You would expose the rapist.
I can’t go deeper for personal reasons but this is not a superficial topic.
As good as speaking out is, you also need to consider your personal safety (Especially when the raper is a very violent person and your location isn’t safe.), You need to consider your partner if you are in a relationship too they might not be comfortable with it. if you are not comfortable speaking out because of stigmatization.
I recommend using a Platforms like Guess iyke’s True stories, or posts publications online changing your name. Just make sure you speak out.
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Should rape victims speak up?
On face value; one can easily jump and say the answer is yes. However it is sad that we live in a society that often sets double standards. It is quite disheartening that the laws of the society that we run to for protection is the same laws that jeopardize us.
One is now caught between “What is the right thing to do”? And “What is the best thing to do”? Many rape victims especially children are victims of their own family members. “Father rapes daughter” – “Uncle rapes niece” – “Brother rapes sister”…the list is endless. You can now see how easily one can be caught between “What is the right thing to do”? And “What is the best thing to do”? More so, in such scenario where the rape victims fall prey to their own family members, it often is a case of ‘repeated rape”. What a sad situation. So in the victims bid to “protect her family image” she ends up “protecting the culprit”.
“RAPE”, is not a word that anyone wants to be associated with, both the culprit and the victim. I have seen situations where relationships are broken, even marriages(i have seen) when the female is raped(for no fault of hers). She is adjudged to be “unworthy”….So sad.
It is even worse that it takes evidence to make a good case. “It’s not what you know, it’s what you can prove”. So even if a rape case is reported, how can the complainant prove it. I am at my wits end with this; honestly.
In all honesty, i subscribe to the fact that rape victims should speak up. Yes there is a good chance the victim will be stigmatized but it sure can put the culprit behind bars and prevent him from going on a rape spree.
All hands MUST be on deck. It starts with the family unit; the victim must trust her family enough to report the matter to her family. The family must trust the state enough to report the matter to the state. The judicial system should give preference to rape cases and make it speedy. In fact, each state should have a system in place that addresses rape cases. The truth is once the society sees that the “system” can protect rape victims and prosecute the culprits, i am certain that it will buy the confidence or rape victims and provide a haven.
We really are all learners and i appreciate YOU my ANALYST’s for sharing your opinion. I look forward to more topics and your contributions. Thank you so much as we continue the conversation on this thread. Thank you for viewing Guess Iyke’s (ASD). You can join also our team of ANALYST’s.